Can You Control Your Emotions?
Emotions can have a major impact on your life. Sometimes, you can lose control of your emotions, resulting in outbursts. But can you control these emotions?
People have four primary negative emotions; hurt, fear, anger, and guilt. Other feelings, such as frustration, irritation, and sadness, are a result of these four primary emotions. For example, if you’re hurt by somebody’s actions, it can cause you sadness. Anxiety is caused by fear.
It’s these four primary emotions that cause people to react irrationally. These actions are caused by your reptilian brain and the response is to protect yourself. When something negative happens to you, such as getting cut off in traffic, your subconscious kicks in, causing you to act in an irrational way.
The emotions that we have are stored in our subconscious mind. When an event occurs, our reaction to it is based on our beliefs. If you get cut off in traffic, your subconscious mind asks, “Did I do something to cause this event?” This can make you feel angry.
Society tells us that we’re not supposed to have emotions like anger or sadness. We’re supposed to push those feelings down. So when we do have those feelings, we feel guilt because society has told us that we shouldn’t feel that way. Instead, we’re supposed to think positively about everything. But humans aren’t built that way.
When you have negative feelings, such as anger or sadness, suppressing those feelings can result in negative physical effects. Failing to resolve those emotions creates stress, which in turn results in illness. Some of the physical effects you might feel is a lack of appetite or a lack of sleep.
You might be wondering what can bring these emotions up and how to avoid reacting irrationally. The emotions are brought up because you have emotional baggage. There is something deep down that hasn’t been resolved and the slightest thing can cause it to rise to the surface. It can be something as small as a minor disagreement. It might seem as though you’re reacting irrationally, but that’s because you’re reacting to a deeper problem.
The only way to determine why you’re feeling or reacting this way is to tap into the deeper problem within your subconscious. It could be caused by something that happened as recently as a week ago or as far back as 20 years ago. Hypnotherapy allows you to tap into your subconscious to determine why you’re sad, angry, or hurt.
But how do you avoid blowing up when you experience these feelings? The most important thing is to communicate. If something is bothering you, you should talk about it with the other participant rather than suppressing your feelings. The feelings won’t go away, but will sit below the surface until they eventually rise up. Eventually, enough of these feelings will stack up and you won’t be able to handle it anymore.
Unfortunately, there is no way to completely control your emotions. You can’t tell yourself not to feel a certain way. Whatever you resist, persists, and those feelings won’t go away until you resolve the deeper issues. However, there are ways that you can keep your emotions from negatively affecting you at the present time.
It’s important to let your emotions out in a healthy and productive way. Rather than yelling and screaming, you should release these feelings in small increments. This can be done by controlling your nervous system.
When you start to get angry, your fight-or-flight response will kick in. This is a stress response that can result in sweaty palms and a faster heartbeat. Your judgement can become cloudy, resulting in irrational behavior. To avoid this problem, take deep, diaphragmatic breaths. This will calm your nervous system, allowing you to control your response to your emotions.
If a feeling of sadness kicks in, it’s important to know that it’s okay to cry. Society might consider crying a weakness, but it’s actually a good way of releasing the emotions we’re feeling. It’s a cleansing ritual that allows us to let out the negative emotions that are filling our bodies.
If you find yourself feeling unnecessarily angry or sad, there’s a way that you figure out the cause. First, attempt to find what is triggering you when you are experiencing these emotions. Discovering your triggers will help you find out where you’re projecting. Then you can start on getting to the root of the problem.
Experiencing negative emotions might be normal, but you can still resolve these issues. If you find yourself suffering from anger, depression, or other emotional strife and want to resolve the problem, book a free consultation through my website. You can also watch my weekly YouTube show, The Well-Balanced Mind, where I’ll provide insights into understanding your mind and behavior.
